Saturday, January 7, 2023

Blog # 64 Dated: 07 January 2023: Our Sister Kaki Jee Remembered Part 3

 




Namaskar.

Part 3 of the narration started two days back continues here.

Life moved on. Sheetu Jee completed her engineering degree. She got a job. Now it was time for her marriage. She helped by selecting her own life partner. And what nice people, dear Aditya Jee, and his family turned out to be. I will lie if I do not tell you that it meant a lot of tension for everyone, including our dear Kaki Jee after we knew about this development.  We tried to persuade Sheetu Jee to change her decision, but she did not agree. Ultimately, our sister and Baisahib jee agreed to the match. All of us brothers, along with our spouses, chipped in with the marriage preparations, functions and celebrations. The marriage took place at Faridabad. Kaki Jee was happy that everything went off very well. As days went on, we all started knowing Aditya Jee and the family more closely. We are all proud to have Aditya Jee in our family.  Kaki Jee would always hold Aditya Jee and his family in high esteem. And the love and respect that they would bestow on Kaki jee till the last day of her disappearance has been exemplary and without parallel in my life experiences.

Kaki Jee had probably bad “karam” from her previous birth. A few months after the marriage functions, she started having bouts of stomach-related moderate to severe pain. Doctors were consulted and medicines were prescribed. The medicines would give her temporary relief and the problem would reappear. Doctors were changed, but the pattern continued. She would be very careful in her eating habits and would never miss taking the medicines prescribed. But the problem continued for about three to four years. Then a doctor suspected signs of the dreaded disease in her. We decided to seek help at AIIMS Delhi. Through Behnjee, we were able to get an introduction to a doctor working in the Oncology department in AIIMS. He asked us to come over to the hospital on a particular day in the morning. Kaki Jee, Baisahib Jee, and I reached the hospital at about 8 AM. When we found our way to the Oncology Outpatient section, we found a huge crowd. The doors were jammed with patients trying to rush in. The doctor whom we had to meet was inside the consultation room but the crowd would not provide us even an inch of space to enter. At that stage, I told Baisahib Jee that if we have to get help for Kaki Jee, we should forget the Government hospital. I told both of them that we will be able to find resources for her treatment. We all agreed and we then returned home without even attempting to breach the human wall of patients. The same evening, we planned to seek treatment at Apollo Hospital. The next day we went there and were able to consult one Dr. Gupta (I hope this was his name) He was a surgeon and a date for the operation was conveyed. We completed the process for admission. The next day the operation took place. It took almost 14 hours before we (Baisahib Jee and myself), waiting outside in the waiting room, were informed that the operation was over. One of our relatives, Dr. Mrs. Poornima Dhar, working in the Anesthesia Department at the hospital, would update us periodically about the progress during the operation.  In a few days, she was back home. It was a miracle that she had become healthy again.

A year or so before the operation, she had a fear that her health problem might get worse. Therefore, she started looking for a marriage partner for Sonam Jee. Sonam Jee had already passed her degree in Fashion Technology and had started setting up a private fashion house in partnership with one of her friends, at a place in Delhi near Faridabad. The work had started picking up. It needed investment and a proper business model. Being already in the private business (I had experienced private company issues as I was working in a private company myself post-retirement from government service), it was my view that it would not be a good idea to invest and develop a system (like obtaining GST registration etc. etc.) at that time because marriage/boy / his job and placement would be an important factor. Sonam Jee may look very soft, but it needed my best efforts to convince her. Thank God that she agreed and did not pursue her plan at that time. Kaki Jee and Baisahib Jee were sympathetic to Sonam Jee’s idea initially but respected my viewpoint too. They agreed with me that for private enterprises, weaving into a government monitoring system is easy but very complicated to get out. 

We are lucky that Dhruv Jee was selected to be a partner for Sonam Jee. He and his family have been so affectionate and helpful. I was in Canada when the match was formalized. I was informed. The marriage date was fixed. We came to Faridabad well ahead of the marriage date. Kaki Jee’s operation took place about a month or two before the marriage date. On her return to home from the hospital, she was too weak to do anything. Our dear sister Behn Jee was a great help. She did a lot to help prepare a plan and get it executed nicely. Her great quality is her confidence and tension-free attitude.  The rest of us all chipped in with our efforts.   Our dear sister Kaki Jee had great faith in Behn Jee’s and our capabilities. She would be satisfied with us all managing various aspects as a great team. About ten days before the marriage, Baisahib Jee and I loaded his car with all “saamaan” and left for Jammu. We two reached our destination in the evening. Dear Raja Jee, the husband of dear Jiga Jee (sister of Baisahab Jee), had already got the house at Chenni Himmat cleaned.  We had the house all set up by the next day. In a couple of days, Kaki Jee, accompanied by Veena Jee, arrived by air. Soon Behn Jee also came. She took over and the marriage was solemnized very nicely. Kaki Jee was very pleased.

This concludes Part 3 of the events involving our sister and the family. Part 4 will be sent tomorrow.

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